What is Psychotherapy?
Psychotherapy varies widely depending upon the therapist. Although the techniques used by psychotherapists and counselors can be determined by the particular problems involved, more often they depend upon the education, training, and the therapist’s beliefs about human development and psychotherapy. Let me describe briefly my style and beliefs about psychotherapy.
In its most broad sense, psychotherapy is treatment for mental and emotional health. Without assistance, it can be difficult for someone to see all aspects of the problems that he or she is struggling with because some of the patterns and symptoms a person has will have unconscious aspects to them. I work with people to become cognizant of these aspects of their thinking, relationship styles, and behavior. However, even once someone has identified the ins and outs of his or her problematic patterns and the underlying reasons for the symptoms; it can continue to be difficult to make lasting changes because fears and other resistances will provide pressure towards maintaining the status quo. I help people to become more psychologically flexible through discovering insights about themselves and making lasting changes in their patterns of relating to others, in their ways of thinking about situations, and in behaviors and symptoms so that life can feel more fulfilling, successful, and at ease.
Most couples seek help to restore connection, improve communication, and work through problems that have arisen. My style of couples therapy/ marriage therapy focuses on improving communication while looking at each person's developmental and historical patterns including how these patterns are being replicated in the couple relationship. Historical patterns both attract a couple to one another and cause problems with relating to each other. Though this therapy, couples can distinguish what is reasonable to expect from their partner, change their own behaviors that are contributing to problems in the relationship, and better work together so that each person's needs are being met.
What to Expect…
The first psychotherapy sessions are spent deciding if we are a good match and building a therapeutic relationship. Over time, you will explain what problems you are struggling with, discuss your current life circumstances, and give historical information about yourself and your family. Our conversations will focus on your present life, your history and how your past experiences are affecting your present, your future, as well as on the interactions that arise between us. The extent of your concerns will determine whether your therapy is short or long-term.
Why Undergo Psychotherapy?
Concerns about problematic relationship patterns; emotional and behavioral symptoms; traumatic experiences; and grief or loss are just some of the main reasons people enter psychotherapy. In addition, therapy can help to navigate struggles with the existential problems of finding meaning in life, making choices about how to author your life within your own constraints and limitations, ultimately being alone, and mortality.
The Solutions That I Help People Find are Unique
to Each Person
Everyone is bound to experience a surplus of painful feelings in his or her imperfect yet unique existence. Finding a sense of balance of overall-life contentment is a more realistic life goal than seeking eternal happiness.
Benefits and Risks
Psychotherapy has both benefits and risks. To illustrate, first, it cannot offer any absolute guarantees of improvement. Furthermore, because therapy often involves discussing unpleasant aspects of your life, you may experience uncomfortable feelings. On the other hand, psychotherapy has also been shown to have positive outcomes for people who go through it. Some examples of the positive outcomes that my clients have experienced are improved relationships, discovering of personal insights, symptom relief, changes in behaviors and perspectives, professional/ work success, and found peace with oneself.